a matter of perception

many times, quarrels arise due to differing viewpoints.

when someone proposes A, but you think it should be B, if you're not one who just lets it go without a fight or if you're one who's easy-going, nothing will happen. otherwise, you'll most likely start to talk it out with the proposer and try to get him/her to see your point.

for me, when it comes to certain issues or sensitive topics, i may get defensive. and when that happens, apologies, but my words won't be kind. or rather, i don't intentionally mean them to be harsh, but it probably comes out as harsh or in a not-so-nice tone, as i've been told. and i start to argue (or i sound like i'm arguing or starting a quarrel because of my "fierce" and defensive tone), which doesn't exactly help, does it?

actually all i'm trying to do is to talk it out and try to smooth the differences. understand what's the other person's stand and come to an agreement somehow.

so i don't like it when people want to impose their viewpoints and standards on me.

the point is "coming to an agreement", not "you must do it my way".

if i don't do things the way you do/did, it doesn't mean what i'm doing is wrong. i don't mind you telling me and sharing why you think i should do it your way, but i hope you'll also respect me and listen to what i have to say with an open mind and not just shut me out and fault me for invoking you when i try to make my stand.

sometimes it's really hard to communicate!! especially when you have differing perspectives and both parties are stubborn and their beliefs are strongly/deeply rooted! =\