love and marriage

Love and marriage, love and marriage
Go together like a horse and carriage
This I tell you brother
You cant have one without the other

Love and marriage, love and marriage
Its an institute you cant disparage
Ask the local gentry
And they will say its elementary

Try, try, try to separate them
Its an illusion
Try, try, try, and you will only come
To this conclusion

Love and marriage, love and marriage
Go together like a horse and carriage
Dad was told by mother
You cant have one without the other

that's "love and marriage" by frank sinatra.

people fall in love, and they get married. of course some don't, but the norm is to do so. but, when happens after marriage? with all the rising divorce rates, extra-marital affairs you hear about, how comfortable are you with getting married?

i don't know many friends who have been so long or so steady with their other half and contemplating marriage. i do know about acquaintances who are 2 years older, who have gotten married, and more are on this road. and i do wonder...how do they know if they have found the RIGHT one? is it when they have been together for eons, e.g. since secondary school or whatever, and at the age of 26 they already know each other inside out, they love each other, and they know that they can put up with the flaws that the other party has? or is it a case of hot passion that goes "oh, you are the one meant for me".

i'm so envious of my biao ge and his wife. they're so lovey dovey... married for almost 2.5 years and still so in love. you don't have to even talk to them to know. they just seem oblivious to their surroundings whenever they're together, holding hands, hugging each other by the waist, etc. etc..u get the picture? awww...so sweet! wonder if i'll be like that in the future? =X

if you're interested, you can check out the following links:

Expectations in Relationships (Part 1)
http://www.938live.sg/asol/Newsletter/22sept.htm
"Expectations in Relationships (Part 2)"
http://www.938live.sg/asol/Newsletter/25sept.htm
"Did I Marry the Right Person?"
http://www.938live.sg/asol/Newsletter/9oct.htm
"Keeping Your Relationship Fresh and Strong"
http://www.938live.sg/asol/Newsletter/10nov.htm
"5 Golden Rules for Finding Your Life Partner"
http://putraworks.wordpress.com/2005/03/08/5-golden-rules-for-finding-your-life-partner/
"How Will I Know If I've Met the Person I Should Marry?"
http://putraworks.wordpress.com/2005/03/07/how-will-i-know-if-ive-met-the-person-i-should-marry/